Desperate!! I have had enough!! Please Help!!?

sounds like your husband is being over pretective b/c she is "his" not "yours" he has to understand that you do love her and you do want whats best...if this continues she will start to pick u on it and figure out that can can disrespect you and get away with it b/c Daddy doesn't believe you....You have got to come to a medium where you have equal respect and control over your children b/c you are obviously playing mommy to her. If you are gonna raise her then you have to be able to handle her.Try to talk to him calmly and explain how this is going to cause discipline problems with her or martial problem with you and him.....If that doesn't work you need to seek family counselling for stepparents/parents/stepchildren...Your son will also pick up on the fact that dad gets mad at him for misbehaving but doesn't get mad at his sis...hope this helps...good luck